throw shad
v. phr.— «It’s possible for someone to be friends with you and your ex without taking sides. Since you are close to Abdoulah’s mother and sisters, don’t assume you must break up with them too. Naturally, you won’t use those friendships to “throw shade” at Abdoulah.» —“He’s gone: a wise aunt counsels her niece” by Rhonda Findling, Hattie Gossett Essence June 1, 1995. (source: Double-Tongued Dictionary)